Transurfing. Part 21. Excess Potentials: Superiority and Inferiority

Transurfing
Part 21
Excess Potentials: Superiority and Inferiority
The feelings of superiority or inferiority are both dependent relationships in their purest form. Your qualities are being compared to the qualities of others, thus inevitably an ex- cess potential is created. On the energy level, it’s not important whether you express your superiority publicly or simply congratulate yourself in secret. There is no need for me to try to prove that public display of superiority won’t bring you anything, except resentment from the people around you. When you are comparing yourself to others to your advantage, then you are striving towards an artificial self-assertion at the expense of others. Such a striving always creates a potential, even if it is simply a shadow of the arrogance that isn’t fully expressed. The action of the balancing forces in this case will always be a flick on the nose.
It’s obvious that when comparing oneself to the surrounding world, a man is trying to prove his importance. But the actual self-assertion you get by comparing yourself to others is illusory. In a similar manner, a fly would try to beat its way through a window glass, while there is an open window right beside it. When a man strives to tell the world of his importance, energy is spent on supporting an artificially created excess potential. Self-perfection, on the other hand, develops real virtues – the energy is not spent in vain and a harmful excess potential is not created. 
It may appear to you that the energy spent on comparing yourself with others is quite insignificant. In reality, there is enough energy to support a rather strong potential. Here, the intention to direct one’s energy in one way or another plays the main part. If one’s aim is the wish to acquire virtues, then this intention will move the person forward towards the aim. If, however, one’s aim is to demonstrate all his “regalia” to the world, then the person will be like a car stuck in the mud – pushing and tugging and not getting anywhere, thus creating an irregularity in the energy field. The world will be “stunned” with the display of regalia and as a result, the balancing forces will come into play. They do not have much choice: they could either liven up the fading colours of the surrounding world, or extinguish the shine of an inappropriate star. The first alternative is, of course, too labor consuming. Only the second alternative remains. The balancing forces have a number of ways of doing this. For them, it’s entirely unnecessary to deprive the ambitious person of his regalia. It’s enough to present him with an annoying nuisance, in order to knock the stuffing out of him.
We often perceive all nuisances, problems and obstacles to be the integral parts of this world. No one is surprised that all of these, beginning with the tiniest problem and end- ing with very serious ones, are necessary companions of every person throughout his life. We are all used to thinking that this is our world. In fact, having trouble is an an- omaly, an abnormal phenomenon. Where troubles come from and why they happen to you are things that are often impossible to figure out using pure logic. It turns out that the majority of troubles, one way or another, are brought forth by the actions of balancing forces, which are working at eliminating ex- cess potential that you or people around you have created. You don’t realize that you have created this excess potential and accept your problems as an unavoidable evil and don’t understand that this is simply the work of
the balancing forces.
You can free yourself from most of your problems if you free yourself from the im- mense efforts that you are directing at sup- porting excess potential. A huge amount of energy is not only spent in vain, but it is also used to turn the balancing forces in such way that the result becomes directly opposite to your intentions. Therefore, you must simply stop beating your head against the window glass, like the fly above, and re-direct your intention to developing your virtues instead, without worrying about your position on the ladder of superiority. Having freed yourself from the heavy preoccupation with your own importance, you will also free yourself from the influence of the balancing forces. You will have fewer problems and become more and more confident in your own powers.
However, you must keep away all thoughts about you being able to control or manipulate the world. Regardless of your position on the social ladder, having taken the place of the “almighty” you will definitely lose. An attempt to change the surrounding world will disturb the balance. Active interference with the workings of the world will always affect the interests of a majority of people to a certain degree. Transurfing allows you to choose a destiny without stepping on the toes of others. This is much more effective than to forge ahead, trying to overcome all obstacles in your path. Fate is truly in your hands, but only in the sense that you were given the ability to choose it and not to change it. Many people have suffered defeat when acting as if they were the creators of fate in the literal sense. There is no place for battles in Transurfing. Thus, with a sigh of relief, you can “bury the hatchet of war.”
On the other hand, refusing superiority has nothing to do with self-destruction. Belittling one’s virtues is the other side of the superiority complex. On the energy level, whether you create an excess potential with a plus or a minus sign is not important. The size of the created potential is directly proportional to how much a person’s evaluation of the world differs from reality. Once the balancing forces encounter somebody’s attributed importance, they will act in such a way as to re- move it from its pedestal. In the case of low self-esteem, they would force a person to try to raise his falsely underestimated virtues. The balancing forces usually act in a straight- forward way and they do not really care about the subtleties of human relationships. Thus, a man starts behaving unnaturally, which all the more highlights what he is trying to hide.
For example, teenagers can behave in a defi- ant and disrespectful way, and by doing so,
they are simply trying to make up for their insecurity. Shy people could be acting overly outgoing or impudently, in order to hide their shyness. People with low self-esteem, wanting to show the better sides of them- selves, can behave in an inhibited or affected manner. And so on. In any case, fighting your hang-ups will bring consequences that are by far more unpleasant than the hang-up itself.
As you understand by now, all these at- tempts to fight one’s weaknesses and flaws are in vain. It’s hopeless trying to fight low self-esteem. The only way of avoiding its consequences is to eliminate the hang-up it- self. However, it’s actually quite difficult to get rid of it. Trying to persuade yourself that everything is great with you is also pointless. You won’t be able to fool yourself. The meth- od of using “slides” will help you in this task, and we will get acquainted with it a little bit later. (See note below). At this point, it’s enough to simply under- stand that a preoccupation with one’s own weaknesses and flaws, in comparison to the virtues of others, works in the same way as the desire to show off one’s relative superiority. The result will be the opposite of your intention. Don’t be imagining that everyone around is attributing the same significance to your deficiencies as you do yourself. Actually, everyone is preoccupied only with them- selves, therefore you can easily throw this giant weight off your back. Excess potential will then disappear, the balancing forces will stop aggravating the situation, and energy will be released.
It is not a question of fighting your flaws or trying to hide them, but rather of compens- ating for them with other qualities. Lack of beauty can be compensated with charm. There are people who are physically quite unattractive, but as soon as they start talk- ing, their listener becomes completely enthralled. Physical flaws are compensated with self-confidence. Just remember how many great people in history were rather un- attractive physically! Inability to communicate with others can be replaced with the ability to listen. There is a saying: “Everyone is lying, but it doesn’t matter, because no one is listening to anyone anyway.” Your eloquence might interest people, but only as a last re- sort. Everyone, just like you, is preoccupied exclusively with themselves and their own problems – therefore, a good listener to whom you could pour your heart out, is a true find. I can give one piece of advice to shy people: protect this quality of yours, like you would a treasure! Believe me shyness has a hidden charm to it. Once you decide to stop fighting your shyness, it will no longer be a clumsy quality of yours and you will no-
tice how people will start liking you.
Here is another example of compensating for your less flattering sides. The imagined need
to “be cool” often pushes people to imitate others who have achieved the status of a “cool guy”. Mindless imitation of somebody else’s script creates nothing more than a parody. Everyone has his or her own script. You just need to choose your own credo and live by it. To imitate others in an attempt to gain the “cool” status is just like using the method of a fly beating against the window glass. For example, the leader in a group of teenagers is the one that lives according to his credo. The leader could only have become one because he freed himself from the obligation to ask others about how he should act. He doesn’t need to imitate anyone, he simply has a worthy opinion of himself, he knows what he is doing, he doesn’t need to suck up to anyone and he doesn’t need to prove anything to anybody. Hence, he is free from excess potential and gets the deserved advantage. In any group, the individuals that become leaders are the ones that live according to their own credo. If a person has freed himself from the weight of excess potential, he has nothing more to defend – he is internally free, self-sufficient and has more energy than those around him. These advantages, in comparison to other members of the group, make him a leader.
Can you see where the open window is located? Maybe you’re thinking, “none of this is about me, I don’t suffer from any hangups”. Don’t try to fool yourself. Every person to a greater or lesser extent tends to create excess potential around his persona. But if you fol- low the principles of Transurfing, superiority and inferiority complexes will simply disap- pear from your life. 

Note:
For more information on how to use “slides”, see Chapter II, in The Rustling of the Morning Stars, the Second Book in the Transurfing series.